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@San若梦 2017-07-24 05:53:12 Family life of transvestites The majority of transvestites I know make their livings as men, but can be quite miserable when dressed in male clothes. Not being interested, they do not dress well as men and frequently look shabby. They long for the moment when they come home and can relax in their feminine finery, perhaps only a fancy dressing gown. There, the best is never too good. The wife is often in a quandary, lest the children get a glimpse of their father dressed as a woman, or visitors may come before the husband can disappear into the bathroom and change clothes. ----------------------------- 易装欲者的家庭生活 我所知的易装欲者，大多数都以男性身份生活着，但着男装时可能很痛苦。因为不感兴趣，他们不擅长着男装，经常显得邋里邋遢。他们渴望回到家里、穿上女装放松的时刻，有的可能仅仅是一条精美的女裙。（……）太太们经常陷入困惑且无所适从，唯恐孩子们瞅见他们的父亲着女装，或是有客人来访而丈夫来不及溜进浴室换衣服。 |
| For their future psychological development, children should certainly be protected against learning of their father's transvestism and seeing him "dressed." Especially, a boy's identification with the father image may suffer irreparable damage. I have one patient, a transsexual, who told me "she" (this patient is living as woman although she has had no operation), has never seen her father dressed as a man, nor has she ever seen her mother (who was also a transvestite) dressed as a woman. It would appear most unlikely that under such pathological conditioning a normal adult male could have resulted. This, however, is an extreme case, possibly consciously or unconsciously exaggerated to justify the patient's own transsexualism. It is by no means typical. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-24 06:21:33 For their future psychological development, children should certainly be protected against learning of their father's transvestism and seeing him "dressed." Especially, a boy's identification with the father image may suffer irreparable damage. I have one patient, a transsexual, who told me "she" (this patient is living as woman although she has had no operation), has never seen her father dressed as a man, nor has she ever seen her mother (who was also a transvestite) dressed as a woman. It would appear most unlikely that under such pathological conditioning a normal adult male could have resulted. This, however, is an extreme case, possibly consciously or unconsciously exaggerated to justify the patient's own transsexualism. It is by no means typical. ----------------------------- 为孩子们将来的心理发育，他们当然应该受到保护，不应该知道自己父亲是易装欲者以及看见父亲“装扮成女性”。尤其是一个男孩对父亲形象的认定，可能会受到无法修复的伤害。我有一个变性欲病人告诉我说，“她”（这位病人以女性身份生活，虽然并未接受过手术）从未见过自己父亲着男装，也从未见过母亲（也是易装欲者）着女装。在如此一个病态的条件下，很难成长出一个正常的成年男性。但这是一个非常极端的案例，很可能有意无意地被病人夸大了，以此来为自己的易装欲辩护。无论如何这都非典型。 |
| In any event, it seems inexcusable for any father to let his children see him openly indulging in his transvestitic pleasures. Few wives and mothers would stand for it either, although I have known of two or three such marriages to persist. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-24 06:41:44 In any event, it seems inexcusable for any father to let his children see him openly indulging in his transvestitic pleasures. Few wives and mothers would stand for it either, although I have known of two or three such marriages to persist. ----------------------------- 任何情况下，一个父亲都没有理由让孩子们看见自己公开地沉溺于易装欲的愉悦里，也很少有妻子和母亲能忍受这种事情发生，虽然我知道有两个或三个这样的婚姻存在。 |
| Transvestites for whom "dressing" is necessary to preserve an emotional balance can develop other and more serious symptoms, if frustrated too long. I have seen alcoholic excesses acting as substitutes, and drug habits may find their inception in this way. I have also seen great nervous irritability develop so that a job was lost and family life disrupted. "He flies off the handle at the least provocation," a wife said of her husband, when he was unable to "dress" from time to time and "be himself" in female attire. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-24 06:49:42 Transvestites for whom "dressing" is necessary to preserve an emotional balance can develop other and more serious symptoms, if frustrated too long. I have seen alcoholic excesses acting as substitutes, and drug habits may find their inception in this way. I have also seen great nervous irritability develop so that a job was lost and family life disrupted. "He flies off the handle at the least provocation," a wife said of her husband, when he was unable to "dress" from time to time and "be himself" in female attire. ----------------------------- 那些必须靠“装扮”来维持一个精神上的平衡的易装欲者，假如受挫太久，可能会发展出另外一些更为严重的症状。我看见过以酗酒来替代的，嗑药也是这样起的头。我也看见过神经紧张、敏感易怒发展到何等激烈的程度，以至于工作丢了，家庭破裂。“一丁点小事就能怒发冲冠”，一位太太如此讲述她的丈夫，当他一次又一次地不能“装扮”、不能着女装“成为他自己”时。 |
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One of my patients, a rather shy and timid person as a man, changes completely when he assumes his female role. As a woman, he loses his self-consciousness and his feeling of insecurity which he himself explains: "Self- reliance, a certain aggressiveness and dominance are expected of a man. This is against my nature. It is not expected of a woman. Therefore, as a woman, I feel at ease, more secure and my true self." In his male role, this patient suffers from intense fear of high places. He panics at the idea of traveling by plane. When "dressed," no such fear exists and he takes trips by plane regularly and can enjoy them. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-24 07:10:48 One of my patients, a rather shy and timid person as a man, changes completely when he assumes his female role. As a woman, he loses his self-consciousness and his feeling of insecurity which he himself explains: "Self- reliance, a certain aggressiveness and dominance are expected of a man. This is against my nature. It is not expected of a woman. Therefore, as a woman, I feel at ease, more secure and my true self." In his male role, this patient suffers from intense fear of high places. He panics at the idea of traveling by plane. When "dressed," no such fear exists and he takes trips by plane regularly and can enjoy them. ----------------------------- 我有一个病人，作为男人来说相当的羞怯懦弱，但一当回复他的女性角色，就完全变了一个人。变身为女性，他就没有了那种自我意识，那种不安感，对此他自己解释道：“身为男人，总是被期望要自信，要有那种进攻性和强势姿态，但那不是我的天性。这种期望对女性并没有，所以作为女性我就感觉很自在、很安全，才感觉是真正的自我。”在他的男性角色里，这位病人有强烈恐高症，想着乘飞机旅行就恐慌。但“装扮好”之后，这种恐慌就烟消云散，他定期地乘机旅行并能享受飞行的乐趣。 |
| Not all such "nervous" symptoms need be psychogenic. It would be wise for a doctor to be hypoglycemia- conscious. Intense frustration to which TVs and TSs are subject, coupled with (frequently observed) poor eating habits, can produce a functional hypoglycemia that may give rise to emotional extremism, lack of judgment and control, compulsive actions, together with physical manifestations, dizziness, fainting spells, heart palpitations, and so on. Proper medical treatment with particular attention to diet can then be very helpful. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-25 02:09:11 Not all such "nervous" symptoms need be psychogenic. It would be wise for a doctor to be hypoglycemia- conscious. Intense frustration to which TVs and TSs are subject, coupled with (frequently observed) poor eating habits, can produce a functional hypoglycemia that may give rise to emotional extremism, lack of judgment and control, compulsive actions, together with physical manifestations, dizziness, fainting spells, heart palpitations, and so on. Proper medical treatment with particular attention to diet can then be very helpful. ----------------------------- 不是所有这类“紧张的”症状都属心理性的，一个明智的医生应该有低血糖的意识。易装欲者和变性欲者所感受的强烈挫折感，再加上（经常能观察到的）糟糕的饮食习惯，能导致一种功能性的低血糖，进而引发情绪上的极端表现、判断和控制缺失、强迫性行为，同时还有身体上的不适、晕眩、昏迷（？）、心悸，等等等等。适当的医学治疗，尤其对饮食的关注，都大有助益。 |
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Transvestites' wives The wives of transvestites constitute a psychological problem by themselves. I have spoken to at least a dozen. Most of them put up a brave front, claiming to be unaffected in their love for their husbands, but admitting they are certainly not happy about the TVism, even suffering acutely at times. Few, but very few, say they enjoy helping their husbands to "dress" and "make up" and actually like him in his female as much as his male role. Are they fooling themselves, or are they lesbians? I have asked myself these questions many times. Only deeper psychological probing may provide the answers. The husband's ability as a lover and the wife's sexual needs are often deciding factors as to whether a marriage can endure or not. Some can (if mutual concessions are made). Many cannot. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-25 02:43:49 Transvestites' wives The wives of transvestites constitute a psychological problem by themselves. I have spoken to at least a dozen. Most of them put up a brave front, claiming to be unaffected in their love for their husbands, but admitting they are certainly not happy about the TVism, even suffering acutely at times. Few, but very few, say they enjoy helping their husbands to "dress" and "make up" and actually like him in his female as much as his male role. Are they fooling themselves, or are they lesbians? I have asked myself these questions many times. Only deeper psychological probing may provide the answers. The husband's ability as a lover and the wife's sexual needs are often deciding factors as to whether a marriage can endure or not. Some can (if mutual concessions are made). Many cannot. ----------------------------- 易装欲者的太太们 易装欲者的太太们自身也构成了心理问题。我跟至少一打的太太们聊过，她们当中的大多数表面都很勇敢，声明说对她们丈夫的爱并不受影响，但同时也承认对易装欲很不开心，有时甚至很痛苦。也有少数，但是很少数的几位说她们很享受帮丈夫“装扮”及“化妆”，而且真的喜欢他们的女性角色，跟男性角色一样喜欢。她们是在自欺欺人还是本身是女同性恋呢？我多次问过自己这些问题，大概只有更深入的心理探索才能提供答案。丈夫身为情人的能力及妻子自身的性要求通常是这类婚姻能否延续的决定因素，有的能（假如双方都妥协），有的不能。 |
| I have observed rare examples when the wife actually was more homo- than heterosexual and liked her husband better as a woman than as a man. A lesbian like relationship existed that satisfied both, with the husband's transvestism on a transsexual basis (S.O.S. III-IV) finding an almost ideal outlet. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-25 03:24:30 I have observed rare examples when the wife actually was more homo- than heterosexual and liked her husband better as a woman than as a man. A lesbian like relationship existed that satisfied both, with the husband's transvestism on a transsexual basis (S.O.S. III-IV) finding an almost ideal outlet. ----------------------------- 我还观察到比较罕见的案例，那就是妻子的同性恋倾向超过异性恋倾向，因而更喜欢她的丈夫身为女性。由此产生了一种类似女同性恋的关系，不仅满足了双方的需求，还使丈夫基于变性欲之上的易装欲找到一个几乎是理想的发泄渠道。 |
| Perhaps a majority of transvestites' wives are willing to tolerate he husband's hobby, provided they do not have to see him dressed as a woman. I also know marriages of many years' standing when the wife actually never knew of the husband's transvestism, although he indulged in it regularly, several times a month outside of the house.[16] Hugo Beigel, in an article, "Wives of Transvestites,"[17] described the situation in similar terms. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-25 03:33:42 Perhaps a majority of transvestites' wives are willing to tolerate he husband's hobby, provided they do not have to see him dressed as a woman. I also know marriages of many years' standing when the wife actually never knew of the husband's transvestism, although he indulged in it regularly, several times a month outside of the house.[16] Hugo Beigel, in an article, "Wives of Transvestites,"[17] described the situation in similar terms. ----------------------------- 可能大多数的易装欲者太太们都会愿意忍受丈夫的嗜好，只要别让她们看见自家先生着男装。我还知道有结婚多年但妻子从来不知道丈夫有易装欲的，尽管他定期地、每月数次、在外面沉溺于此嗜好。Hugo Beigel在一篇题为“易装欲者的太太们”里描述过相似的情况。 |
| No transvestite should ever marry a girl without telling her of his peculiarity beforehand. It would be too unfair. Too many have not done so and paid dearly later on. Among Buchner's subjects, 72 per cent did not tell. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-25 04:21:52 No transvestite should ever marry a girl without telling her of his peculiarity beforehand. It would be too unfair. Too many have not done so and paid dearly later on. Among Buchner's subjects, 72 per cent did not tell. ----------------------------- 任何一个易装欲者都不应在将自己的怪癖诚实以告之前结婚，那太不公平。太多的人都没有这么做，随后付出沉重代价。（……）百分之七十二的人都没有告知。 |
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Concomitant deviations Accompanying perversions or deviations that often complicate transvestism have been hinted at earlier. They occasionally worry the wives particularly or aggravate their problem. They are rarely mentioned in the literature, except in the TV publications. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-25 06:16:52 Concomitant deviations Accompanying perversions or deviations that often complicate transvestism have been hinted at earlier. They occasionally worry the wives particularly or aggravate their problem. They are rarely mentioned in the literature, except in the TV publications. ----------------------------- 随附变异 早前暗示过，一些随附而来的变异或偏差经常使易装欲更加复杂化，它们特别让太太们揪心，并且还加剧了自身的问题。这些在除易装欲出版物之外的文献里极少被提及。 |
| The most dangerous is probably the desire for "bondage," occasionally with self-strangulation attempts. How often these attempts may go just a little too far, or help may come just a little too late and an unexplained and mysterious "suicide" makes the headlines, anybody may guess. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-25 06:34:58 The most dangerous is probably the desire for "bondage," occasionally with self-strangulation attempts. How often these attempts may go just a little too far, or help may come just a little too late and an unexplained and mysterious "suicide" makes the headlines, anybody may guess. ----------------------------- 最危险的一种大概是“束缚”的欲望，偶尔还伴随着自缢的企图。这些企图可能稍微过头了、营救可能来得稍微晚了、一个神秘的令人费解的“自杀”又上了头条了等等，这种情况发生得有多频繁，谁都可以去猜测。 |
| Flagellation is occasionally demanded by TVs visiting prostitutes in female attire or wanting to "dress" in their homes and merely talk "girl talk" to them like "one girl to another." Some TVs with masochistic inclinations want to be humiliated at the same time. They dress in a servant girl's clothes and want to be ordered around to do washing, cleaning, scrubbing floors, and the like. They are willing to pay well for this kind of "sex service." I knew a noted cardiologist who indulged regularly in this, his only adequate sex life. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-25 06:55:31 Flagellation is occasionally demanded by TVs visiting prostitutes in female attire or wanting to "dress" in their homes and merely talk "girl talk" to them like "one girl to another." Some TVs with masochistic inclinations want to be humiliated at the same time. They dress in a servant girl's clothes and want to be ordered around to do washing, cleaning, scrubbing floors, and the like. They are willing to pay well for this kind of "sex service." I knew a noted cardiologist who indulged regularly in this, his only adequate sex life. ----------------------------- 鞭打也偶尔发生，通常是易装欲者要求招来的妓女，在他们家中着女装或是想要“装扮”，对他们用“女孩的谈话”，就跟“一个女孩对另一个女孩”一样。（若梦注：哎呀，这个绕哦）有些有受虐倾向的易装欲者会同时想要被羞辱，他们身着女仆装，想被命令着洗洗涮涮、擦地板之类的。他们愿意付高价来买这种“性服务”。我知道一位著名的心脏病专家，就是定期沉溺于此，这是他唯一适合的性生活。 |
| Fetishism (S.O.S. II) complicates other TVs' sex lives. At the same time, it puts an additional strain on married life. There are those who like furs or leather. They buy jackets, coats, and entire outfits at considerable expense so that the wife has a just grievance, if she cannot afford anything like it for her own wardrobe. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-25 07:27:45 Fetishism (S.O.S. II) complicates other TVs' sex lives. At the same time, it puts an additional strain on married life. There are those who like furs or leather. They buy jackets, coats, and entire outfits at considerable expense so that the wife has a just grievance, if she cannot afford anything like it for her own wardrobe. ----------------------------- 恋物癖使另外一些易装欲者的性生活复杂化，同时还给婚姻生活增添一个格外的张力。有喜欢皮草和皮革的，他们用相当不菲的花费买夹克、大衣及整套外衣，以至于妻子找到正当理由抱怨，假如她们自己买不起这些的话。 |
| That applies equally to expensive silk gowns and still more so to shoes made to order, often with extra high heels, and new ones all the time. Considerable expenditures also go into the purchase of wigs, jewelry, and accessories. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-25 08:13:58 That applies equally to expensive silk gowns and still more so to shoes made to order, often with extra high heels, and new ones all the time. Considerable expenditures also go into the purchase of wigs, jewelry, and accessories. ----------------------------- 这个同样适用于昂贵的丝绸女裙，还有更加昂贵的定制女鞋——经常是要求格外高的后跟，而且每次都是新的。相当的费用还花在假发、首饰及各种的小玩意儿上。 |
| Much has been made of narcissistic tendencies in TVs. True, most of them spend an abnormal time in front of mirrors, admiring their images as women, only too often overdressing and over adorning themselves with costume jewelry. But whether they are really "in love" with themselves as the classic Narcissus was supposed to be is another question. Exaggerated female vanity may account for the same actions and also for the delight in being photographed in all kinds of poses to show off their new dresses, wigs, or hair-dos. Mirror and camera are certainly indispensable adjuncts to a transvestite's life. Since they are harmless and help emotionally, they have their justification. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-25 08:27:01 Much has been made of narcissistic tendencies in TVs. True, most of them spend an abnormal time in front of mirrors, admiring their images as women, only too often overdressing and over adorning themselves with costume jewelry. But whether they are really "in love" with themselves as the classic Narcissus was supposed to be is another question. Exaggerated female vanity may account for the same actions and also for the delight in being photographed in all kinds of poses to show off their new dresses, wigs, or hair-dos. Mirror and camera are certainly indispensable adjuncts to a transvestite's life. Since they are harmless and help emotionally, they have their justification. ----------------------------- 易装欲中的自恋倾向已经被说得太多。真正的这个类型都是在镜子前渡过超长的时间，崇拜他们自己着女装的形象，只不过这个形象经常都打扮过头，戴了过多的装饰品。但他们是否真的像那传说中的河神之子一样“爱上”了自己，那是另一个问题。夸张的女性虚荣也可能导致同样的行为，还有就是为了显摆他们的新裙子、假发套或发型而摆出各种姿势拍照的愉悦。镜子和相机在一个易装欲者的生活中绝对是不可或缺的附件。既然这些都是无 害的且在精神上有所助益，那就有它的正当性。 |
| The transvestite types discussed here are the S.O.S. II and III principally. In them the symptom of cross-dressing is by far in the foreground of the clinical picture. The TVs with their desire to see such physical changes as gynecomastia through hormone treatments or plastic operations show enough of an overt transsexual trend to be included in the following chapter. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-25 08:55:14 The transvestite types discussed here are the S.O.S. II and III principally. In them the symptom of cross-dressing is by far in the foreground of the clinical picture. The TVs with their desire to see such physical changes as gynecomastia through hormone treatments or plastic operations show enough of an overt transsexual trend to be included in the following chapter. ----------------------------- 这里讨论的易装欲主要都是肯氏第二和第三型，其易装的症状目前看来在临床观察中最显著。那些有着改变身体状况——比如通过激素治疗使其乳房发育或者接受整容手术——欲望的易装欲者，整体上显示出变性的倾向，这是下一章的内容。 |
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第三章完。今天收工啦～～：） |
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@周一沉 2017-07-25 10:42:55 最近看一些东西，有些震撼。 ----------------------------- @周一沉 2017-07-25 10:46:08 对很多东西的认识，都得重新整理。 ----------------------------- @周一沉 2017-07-25 10:47:09 三观重启。 ----------------------------- 什么东西呢？ |
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The Male Transsexual Readers of the foregoing chapters already should be fairly well acquainted with the (transsexual) man who wants not only to appear as a woman by dressing as one, but who actually wants to be a woman in appearance as well as function and wants medical science to make him such as far as that is possible. In other words, it is the man who suffers from a reversed gender role and false gender orientation. He wants to change sex. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-25 12:28:39 The Male Transsexual Readers of the foregoing chapters already should be fairly well acquainted with the (transsexual) man who wants not only to appear as a woman by dressing as one, but who actually wants to be a woman in appearance as well as function and wants medical science to make him such as far as that is possible. In other words, it is the man who suffers from a reversed gender role and false gender orientation. He wants to change sex. ----------------------------- 男性变性欲者 阅读完前几章的读者应该都对变性欲男人相当熟悉了，他们不仅仅是想要靠易装来使自己看起来像女人，而是想要在外表及功能上都成为女人，并且想利用任何可能的医学技术来达成愿望。换言之，这是一个因为性角色和性别错位而痛苦的男人，他想变性。 |
| As we have seen, these persons, in a strictly scientific sense, fool themselves. No actual change of sex is ever possible. Sex and gender [1] (to repeat for the sake of clarity) are decided at the moment of conception, when either two X chromosomes, one from the father and one from the mother, lay the foundation for a future girl, when one Y chromosome (from the father) and one X chromosome (from the mother) insure the birth of a boy. Nevertheless, the wish to change sex persists, and for all practica1 purposes such can and has been accomplished as far as the individual's future life and position in society are concerned. This alteration, from male to female, concerns only the visible genitalia and secondary sex characters. To the extent of external appearance it can be successful and convincing. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-26 00:44:25 As we have seen, these persons, in a strictly scientific sense, fool themselves. No actual change of sex is ever possible. Sex and gender [1] (to repeat for the sake of clarity) are decided at the moment of conception, when either two X chromosomes, one from the father and one from the mother, lay the foundation for a future girl, when one Y chromosome (from the father) and one X chromosome (from the mother) insure the birth of a boy. Nevertheless, the wish to change sex persists, and for all practica1 purposes such can and has been accomplished as far as the individual's future life and position in society are concerned. This alteration, from male to female, concerns only the visible genitalia and secondary sex characters. To the extent of external appearance it can be successful and convincing. ----------------------------- 如前所述，从严格的科学意义上来说，这些人是在自欺欺人，没有什么现实的变性是可能的。性和性别（为明确计再重复一遍）在受孕时就决定了，或者是两个X染色体——一个来自父亲，一个来自母亲——奠定了将来一个女孩的基础，或者是一个Y染色体（来自父亲）和一个X染色体（来自母亲）保证出生的是个男孩。然而，变性的愿望一直存在，而且以所有实际的目的论，对这些个体将来的生活及其在社会上的地位来说，这个愿望是可以达成而且已经达成了。这个从男性到女性的改造，只涉及可看得见的生殖器和第二性征，至于外表，也可以变得很可信。 |
| If a chromosomal study should be made, however, the true (chromosomal) sex would be discovered and this remains true no matter how long the person may have lived as a member of the opposite sex or what operations or hormone treatments may have been applied. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-26 01:31:25 If a chromosomal study should be made, however, the true (chromosomal) sex would be discovered and this remains true no matter how long the person may have lived as a member of the opposite sex or what operations or hormone treatments may have been applied. ----------------------------- 然而，不管这个人以相反的性别身份生活多久，也无论他接受了哪些手术或激素治疗，假如我们做一个染色体检测，还是会发现他真实的染色体性别保持不变。 |
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? The transsexual in life and love ? Psychological state and sex life in transsexuals ? The transsexual's plight ? The physical state of male transsexuals ? Three different types of transsexuals ? Further handicaps of transsexuals |
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The transsexual in life and love There is hardly a person so constantly unhappy (before sex change) as the transsexual. Only for short periods of his (or her) life, such as those rare moments of hope when a conversion operation seems attainable or when, successfully assuming the identity of a woman in name, dress, and social acceptance, is he able to forget his misery. It is not always the frustrated, passionate sexuality, but more so the heart-breaking anguish of the transsexual's gender disharmony that makes him forever a candidate for self-mutilation, suicide, or its attempt. The false relief obtained from alcohol and drugs is not an infrequent complication. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-26 01:59:34 The transsexual in life and love There is hardly a person so constantly unhappy (before sex change) as the transsexual. Only for short periods of his (or her) life, such as those rare moments of hope when a conversion operation seems attainable or when, successfully assuming the identity of a woman in name, dress, and social acceptance, is he able to forget his misery. It is not always the frustrated, passionate sexuality, but more so the heart-breaking anguish of the transsexual's gender disharmony that makes him forever a candidate for self-mutilation, suicide, or its attempt. The false relief obtained from alcohol and drugs is not an infrequent complication. ----------------------------- 变性欲者的生活和爱情 很少有人能像一个变性欲者那样持续不断地不快乐（变性前）。他（或她）的生活中，只有一些非常短暂的时间段——比如那些罕见的希望瞬间里某个变性手术是可行的，还比如他在名字、着装、及社会接受度上都假冒女性成功——他能够忘掉自己的悲哀。并非总是充满激情但受挫的性.事，更多的是性与性别不谐给变性欲者们带来的令人心碎的极端痛楚，这导致他们成为自残、自杀、或是这些企图的永远的候选人，从酒精和毒品里获取虚假的解脱也是常见的并发症。 |
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Self-mutilations are no rarity and have occurred in at least four of my patients out of a total of 152 transsexual males. Two of them tried to castrate themselves but had to give up and call a doctor. One succeeded with the help of a friend in completing the job. One mutilated the penis, requiring several stitches to repair the damage. Many more such incidents have been reported and still more can be safely assumed. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-26 02:32:08 Self-mutilations are no rarity and have occurred in at least four of my patients out of a total of 152 transsexual males. Two of them tried to castrate themselves but had to give up and call a doctor. One succeeded with the help of a friend in completing the job. One mutilated the penis, requiring several stitches to repair the damage. Many more such incidents have been reported and still more can be safely assumed. ----------------------------- 自残并非罕见，在我的总计152位男性变性欲中，至少发生过四起。其中两位是企图自宫但不得不放弃，然后打电话找医生。一位在朋友帮助下完成了这项工作，另一位仅是把阴.茎割伤，之后缝了好几针才修复好。有比这多得多的事件见诸报告，还有更多的可以很有把握地想像得到。 |
| The three patients who castrated themselves or attempted it eventually succeeded in being operated upon in the United States, having testicles and penis removed and a vagina constructed. They are now living as women. The fourth patient is still hoping to find a courageous and understanding surgeon in the United States or, otherwise, to raise the money for a trip abroad. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-26 02:47:34 The three patients who castrated themselves or attempted it eventually succeeded in being operated upon in the United States, having testicles and penis removed and a vagina constructed. They are now living as women. The fourth patient is still hoping to find a courageous and understanding surgeon in the United States or, otherwise, to raise the money for a trip abroad. ----------------------------- 这三位已自宫或是企图如此做的病人，最后都成功地在美国接受了手术，将睾.丸和阴.茎除去，并建造了一条阴.道。她们现在都以女性身份生活着。第四位还在希望着能在美国国内找到一位勇敢且善解人意的外科医生，否则就只能筹够资金后去国外一趟。 |
| Sometimes these acts of self-mutilation are done in desperation. Others are more deliberate and are meant to force the surgeon's hand to complete the genital alteration which he had refused to undertake for reasons of his ethical concepts, or for lack of hospital facilities (where the necessary permission was withheld by the hospital board), for fear of criticism or out of consideration of existing laws. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-26 02:58:09 Sometimes these acts of self-mutilation are done in desperation. Others are more deliberate and are meant to force the surgeon's hand to complete the genital alteration which he had refused to undertake for reasons of his ethical concepts, or for lack of hospital facilities (where the necessary permission was withheld by the hospital board), for fear of criticism or out of consideration of existing laws. ----------------------------- 这些自残的行为有时是出于绝望，另外一些更多是深思熟虑的算计，是为了逼着外科医生去完成这项生殖器改造的手术——该医生本来是拒绝做这个手术的，原因可能是他的职业理念、或是缺乏医院设施（那些必要的准许被医院董事会卡住）、或是惧怕批评、或是考虑现行法律等等。 |
| Finally, surgeons untrained in this type of surgery may lack confidence in their own skill and may be fearful of consequences if a satisfactory (to the patient) outcome should not ensue. Lawyers too are known to have advised the surgeon against operating. Suicides with "motive unknown" have undoubtedly occurred because of the inability to procure surgical help for the sex change. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-26 03:11:16 Finally, surgeons untrained in this type of surgery may lack confidence in their own skill and may be fearful of consequences if a satisfactory (to the patient) outcome should not ensue. Lawyers too are known to have advised the surgeon against operating. Suicides with "motive unknown" have undoubtedly occurred because of the inability to procure surgical help for the sex change. ----------------------------- 最后，那些没有受过这类手术训练的外科医生可能对自己的技术缺乏信心，害怕手术结果不能令人满意（对病人而言）而导致的后果。律师们也据说都是劝阻医生们不要做这类手术。因为变性手术不能进行而导致的“动机不明”的自杀事件，毫无疑问发生过。 |
| I remember only too vividly thirty-year-old Juan, a true TS, who much preferred to be called Juana. Aside from his gender unhappiness, his greatest physical handicap was a very heavy dark beard which would have taken much time and money to remove. He was also handicapped by extreme, almost paranoic sensitiveness to remarks referring to the feminine impression he made and to his assumed homosexual inclination. In addition, there was great poverty and inferior education. It all added up to deep unhappiness without hope for the future. The time came when my psychological help and estrogen treatment had reached the limit of what they could do. Then the surgeon should have taken over to try to salvage this patient. But no surgical help was available. |
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@周一沉 2017-07-25 10:42:55 最近看一些东西，有些震撼。 ----------------------------- @周一沉 2017-07-25 10:46:08 对很多东西的认识，都得重新整理。 ----------------------------- @周一沉 2017-07-25 10:47:09 三观重启。 ----------------------------- @San若梦 2017-07-25 12:28:03 什么东西呢？ ----------------------------- @周一沉 2017-07-26 05:20:20 嗯，是关于共济会，不知道楼主对此知道多少。 ----------------------------- 在小说和电影里见到过，好像是种近乎于宗教团体的组织，所知不多。 |
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几年前这出了本畅销书，中译【达芬奇密码】，我没理解错的话，里面那个神乎其神的组织就是说的共济会吧。 从欧洲发起的，好几百年历史了，很大程度上掌控着欧美社会啥的。 那本书讲的故事就是他们一代代地在保护着耶稣基督的后人～～：） |
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@San若梦 2017-07-26 03:23:18 I remember only too vividly thirty-year-old Juan, a true TS, who much preferred to be called Juana. Aside from his gender unhappiness, his greatest physical handicap was a very heavy dark beard which would have taken much time and money to remove. He was also handicapped by extreme, almost paranoic sensitiveness to remarks referring to the feminine impression he made and to his assumed homosexual inclination. In addition, there was great poverty and inferior education. It all added up to deep unhappiness without hope for the future. The time came when my psychological help and estrogen treatment had reached the limit of what they could do. Then the surgeon should have taken over to try to salvage this patient. But no surgical help was available. ----------------------------- 我还鲜明生动地记得胡安——他非常希望被叫着胡安娜——一名年纪三十的真正的变性欲者。除了在性别上的不幸之外，他身体上最大的缺陷是一把黢黑浓密的胡子，需要花很多的时间和金钱，假如想去除的话。另一个缺陷是他严重到几乎偏执的敏感，对别人针对他所做的女人气的表情及他假装的同性恋倾向的评论。再有就是极度的贫穷和很低的受教育程度，所有这些加起来导致了完全看不见未来有什么希望的不幸。我给予他的心理上的帮助及雌性激素治疗的作用那时已达上限，应该是外科医生接手过去以拯救这位病人的时候了。然而手术并没有可能。 |
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I did not hear from Juan for several months, but at Christmas time 1963, the following note was received: Dear Dr. Benjamin: Finally I have to give up my struggle. Now I just exist waiting in misery for the moment to take leave of this earth in which I have been so miserable. My regards to Virginia, God keep you all in health and good will, so that you can be, someway or another, of good to your fellow man. Good-bye forever, J. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-26 08:18:37 I did not hear from Juan for several months, but at Christmas time 1963, the following note was received: Dear Dr. Benjamin: Finally I have to give up my struggle. Now I just exist waiting in misery for the moment to take leave of this earth in which I have been so miserable. My regards to Virginia, God keep you all in health and good will, so that you can be, someway or another, of good to your fellow man. Good-bye forever, J. ----------------------------- 我好几个月没听见胡安的消息，然后在1963年圣诞节期间收到下面这封信： 亲爱的本杰明医生： 我终于不得不放弃挣扎了。我现在的存在，就是在悲哀中等着离开这个我一直悲惨地活在其中的人世的那一刻。 请感谢维吉尼亚。愿上帝保佑你们健康善良，好使你们能够以这种或那种方式善待你们的同类。 永别了，J。 |
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@猫猫__ 2017-07-26 13:55:58 我能说好想加你微信么…… ----------------------------- 我说没有微信你信么～～：） |
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@San若梦 2017-07-26 07:48:13 几年前这出了本畅销书，中译【达芬奇密码】，我没理解错的话，里面那个神乎其神的组织就是说的共济会吧。 从欧洲发起的，好几百年历史了，很大程度上掌控着欧美社会啥的。 那本书讲的故事就是他们一代代地在保护着耶稣基督的后人～～：） ----------------------------- @周一沉 2017-07-26 10:13:34 嗯，因为它自己的保密性，其他人只能去猜测。但它在世界各地又是实实在在存在着，所以随着时间的那什么，也有不少信息得到证实。 ----------------------------- @周一沉 2017-07-26 10:18:26 比如： 共济会在1730年代出现在北美洲英国殖民地。美国革命后，每个州都成立了总会所。曾有人希望成立以乔治·华盛顿为首任总导师的全美总会所，但没有成功。 1733年组建的总会所被认为是美国的第一个共济会总会所；这个总会所后来被更名为圣约翰会所（St. John's Lodge）。 本杰明·富兰克林于1731年成为这个总会所辖区内的会员。 历届美国总统中现已确认为共济会会员的至少有15位，美国《独立宣言》56位签...... ----------------------------- 一沉你这跟哪来的呀？是要说明啥问题呢？那些天文数字有可靠的出处么？我怎么看着那么不靠谱啊～～：） |
| Attempts to get in touch with him failed. I would like to believe his note to be not more than a hysterical outcry, but the probability is he did find the only solution that he could see for his problem. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-26 14:38:30 Attempts to get in touch with him failed. I would like to believe his note to be not more than a hysterical outcry, but the probability is he did find the only solution that he could see for his problem. ----------------------------- 联系他的企图失败了。我情愿相信他这封信仅仅是个歇斯底里的哭喊，但可能性是他的确找到了他能看见的唯一出路。 |
| Sympathy, understanding, and especially any degree of empathy is found for transsexuals generally only among their own. Therefore they are always anxious to meet someone with the same problem or at least correspond with one. Close friendships are often formed, two transsexuals for instance living together before or after the operation. Contrary to popular assumptions, these friendships are without overt sexuality. They are like two lonely, "normal women" living together, each one wishing for a man as a sex partner, unless asexuality prevails. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-26 14:45:53 Sympathy, understanding, and especially any degree of empathy is found for transsexuals generally only among their own. Therefore they are always anxious to meet someone with the same problem or at least correspond with one. Close friendships are often formed, two transsexuals for instance living together before or after the operation. Contrary to popular assumptions, these friendships are without overt sexuality. They are like two lonely, "normal women" living together, each one wishing for a man as a sex partner, unless asexuality prevails. ----------------------------- 同情、理解、尤其是任何程度的感同身受，对变性欲者而言一般都只能在同类中找到，所以他们总是很急切地想认识同病相怜的人，或者至少和谁通通信。亲密的友情经常是在两个变性欲者在手术前后住在一起时建立起来。与流行的假定恰好相反的是，这样的友情完全没有性事掺合其中，他们就像两个孤独的“正常女人“住在一起，各自期盼着一名男性作为性伴侣，除非无性状态占主导。 |
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To their families, these transsexuals are often an enormous problem. Such a person may dress and behave in an embarrassingly feminine manner, let the hair grow long, may have love affairs with normal men, threaten suicide when opposed too much, speak of his future life as a woman after the operation without much regard for the feelings of others, especially parents, who cannot easily accept having a daughter instead of a son, or siblings who may respond in the same way to having a sister instead of a brother. The patient, however, feels that it is his own future life that is at stake and he does not want to sacrifice it to please somebody else. Relatives often fear being embarrassed through gossip among friends and neighbors more than anything else, and for that reason oppose the "change," the possible happiness of the child taking second place. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-26 15:16:36 To their families, these transsexuals are often an enormous problem. Such a person may dress and behave in an embarrassingly feminine manner, let the hair grow long, may have love affairs with normal men, threaten suicide when opposed too much, speak of his future life as a woman after the operation without much regard for the feelings of others, especially parents, who cannot easily accept having a daughter instead of a son, or siblings who may respond in the same way to having a sister instead of a brother. The patient, however, feels that it is his own future life that is at stake and he does not want to sacrifice it to please somebody else. Relatives often fear being embarrassed through gossip among friends and neighbors more than anything else, and for that reason oppose the "change," the possible happiness of the child taking second place. ----------------------------- 对他们的家庭来说，这些变性欲者往往是巨大的问题。这个人的着装和举止可能都是令人尴尬的娘娘气；留长发；可能和正常男人恋爱；被反对多了就以自杀相威胁；手术后谈起将来的生活都以女性自居，从来不顾及别人的感受，尤其是父母，他们很难轻意接受一个儿子成了女儿，还有兄弟姐妹，对于一个兄弟成为姐妹持同样态度。但这个病人的感觉是，处于存亡之秋的是他的未来，他可不愿为了讨好别的谁们而牺牲自己的生活。亲戚们常常是为了避免在周遭邻居朋友的流言蜚语中感到尴尬而反对“变性”，这个孩子可能的幸福排第二位。 |
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Psychological state and sex life in transsexuals "The need for recognition, attention and acceptance, coupled with inner feelings of being rejected and ignored is prominent in all subjects," said Drs. Worden and Marsh [2] with full justification. Many transsexuals have no overt sex life at all. As Burchard [3] has said, the sex drive in some of them is turned inward toward their own ego. Masturbation is then occasionally practiced, but the urge for it is low and under estrogen treatment gets even lower, to the point of zero. |
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@San若梦 2017-07-27 01:14:14 Psychological state and sex life in transsexuals "The need for recognition, attention and acceptance, coupled with inner feelings of being rejected and ignored is prominent in all subjects," said Drs. Worden and Marsh [2] with full justification. Many transsexuals have no overt sex life at all. As Burchard [3] has said, the sex drive in some of them is turned inward toward their own ego. Masturbation is then occasionally practiced, but the urge for it is low and under estrogen treatment gets even lower, to the point of zero. ----------------------------- 变性欲者的心理状态和性生活 “对被认知、被关注、被接受的需求，加上内在的被拒绝、被漠视的感觉，（……）都是显著的。”Worden 及 Marsh 两位医生很公正地这样说。许多变性欲者完全没有公开的性生活，如同Burchard说过的，他们中有一些的性.欲已经朝内转向自我了。自慰因此也偶尔会做，但欲望很低，尤其在雌性激素作用下降得更低，直至零。 |
| Other transsexuals, however, have a sex life. There are those who still preserve a normal married life, that is to say, with a woman. They say they are able to have sex relations with the help of fantasies, by taking a succubus (under) position in intercourse, or by wearing a female nightgown. Some of these married transsexuals described to me a mental state during intercourse in which the penis seems to lose its identity of ownership. "The penis may just as well be my wife's being inserted into me as vice versa," one patient expressed it. Another one said bluntly, "I don't know whether I screw or am being screwed." Psychoanalysts may find ingenious explanations for such a phenomenon. |
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@周一沉 【它起因于子宫内荷尔蒙量的变化】 百度百科那帖子，起头这一句就是胡说八道。变性欲的真正起因，国际社会医学界的主流认知是，至今还无定论。本杰明医生在这本书里一直就在不厌其烦地阐述此观点——易装欲、变性欲的起因不明，可以是许多因素共用起作用的结果。 五十多年来，欧美国家在此领域的基础研究一直没停但进展并不大，关于其起因也多少有些收获，但总体来说跟五十年前本医生那时的结论并无本质区别——真正起因仍不明。 |
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